Friday, December 20, 2013

For Our Home: EelemenOPillows

 For Our Home: EelemenOPillows

Decorative Pillow Covers [Modern.Fresh.Bold]






So here I am giving you last minute Christmas items to add to your list of things to get! I love switching up our couch pillows with different pops of color and mix matched prints! It gives the whole house a whole new look and a fresh vibe! ElemenOPillows has thousands of options, literally 1730 items to choose from to be exact.  And they are giving my readers 15% off!!!  I love mustard yellow and any shade of gray mixed together so I went with those two colors and did some fun patterns.  

The pillows instantly brightened our home.  Im in the process of decorating (we moved here mid September and had a 6 week old baby so I am a little behind).  But these pillows did just the trick to make me feel at ease in the mean time. I still need to get a rug, curtains, and have been eyeing some reclaimed wood mason jar wall candle holders to go on both sides of our wood clock.

ElemenOPillows is owned by the sweet Karin Larkin, who has shipped to all 50 states and over 80 different countires. Her pillow covers "were featured on the Nate Berkus Show, have been on HGTV's DIY Network and also in Good Housekeeping magazine. They have even been enjoyed by the president during his family's Christmas vacation in Hawaii!".

She is  so sweet and kind to work with. The quality of the pillows speak for themselves. She offers all sorts of sizes so you can choose what will look best in your home. I highly recommend checking out her shop. 


She has so many OPTIONS! Its hard to choose what to go with but I think any of these would look great.

Id love to mix in some spa blue!

I just love this burnt orange & would adore it on my sons rocking chair in his nursery!

Use this Coupon Code for 15% off: HOLIDAY15
Visit her Shop Here: ElemenOPillows

And don't forget to tell me what your favorite pillows are that you've found in her shop or what you'd decorate your house with.

Get the Look:
Pillows c/o ElemenOPillows
Fur Throw (ours is called Chinchilla) On Sale Now Restoration Hardware Luxe Faux Fur Throw
Lamp Shade Drum Lamp Shade

xo


Tuesday, December 17, 2013

What We Wear: EcoShag + A Discount


What We Wear: EcoShag

Hi lovelies, I don't usually do two wear posts back to back but I know Christmas is next week and I wanted to share one of my favorite scarves with you I've been wearing this Fall/Winter and the wonderful maker of this beautiful piece (Slate Grey & Cocoa Brown Chunky Infinity Scarf). If you're anything like me then you probably have a couple more last minute gifts to buy for people for Christmas!  EcoShag sells handmade eco chic fashion accessories for women. EcoShag carries infinity scarves, chunky scarves, vintage inspired head wraps/scarves, and vintage clutches that are just TO DIE FOR!

The material of this scarf is BABY SOFT! It has all the texture you could ever imagine but is still so so comfortable around your neck and face.  Its double layered so their are no seems or raw edges. Her work is absolutely outstanding. I feel so chic & comfortable in this piece
Tania, the owner is such a beautiful soul, if you read about her in her shop bio she talks about being a stay a home mama and being able to do so through owning her own shop, she also said something that I just loved:

"The betterment of humanity has always been an integral part of my life, and I truly believe that a humble spirit and a giving heart are key in changing the world as we know it."

Go check out her shop here: EcoShag
Her facebook HERE
Her Instagram HERE
Her Pinterest HERE

And Don't forget to get 15% off your order by using COUPON CODE: TESSA15

A couple of my other favorites you should definitely check out are:








Photos c/o KelseySteindler
Chiffon Maxi Skirt, Forever 21 (sold out)
BP Black Scoop Back Tank, Nordstroms (link below)
Infinity knit Scarf, EcoShag

Get the look:  (similar here)



ENJOY!


Sunday, December 15, 2013

What We Wear: Bohemian Fringe + A Discount & A GIVEAWAY!

What We Wear: Bohemian Fringe 




I cannot believe we are approaching Christmas SO soon! I think the count down is now 11 days away!! So I figured I'd give you ladies some great shopping sources over the next week. Today I wanted to share this adorable jewelry shop with you all.  Bohemian Fringe specializes in making modern tribal, rustic glamour and tom-boy chic pieces. My favorite thing about this shop is they offer SO many great options to layer necklaces! They are all about the layered/stacked looks giving you the perfect boho vibe.  The owner Christine hand makes all of her necklaces. I don't know how she does it but they are gorgeous and you can tell she has a gift for what she does.  I love how you can choose your own style of chain, the material (brass, silver, etc), as well as the length! All of her pieces look great together so its a great shop to get all of your layered pieces all in one haul..i know sometimes it takes a while to find pieces that are a good match and you spend all this time shopping for lengths that will look good stacked..so Bohemian Fringe makes it easy.

*For 15% off coupon code see the bottom of this post








The beaded chains are my FAVORITE. Theres no clasp so you wont have to deal with spinning it around constantly like i find myself doing with all of my weighted necklaces. 

I wore two of the necklaces layered when I went to the Long Beach Christian Womens Fellowship Christmas Dinner this past week. 



Pyrite Tusk Necklace with a personalized "T" for my hubby's name.  This piece goes with just about everything. I love the layered look but I could just as easily wear this by itself and love how simple yet edgy and different it is


Bohemian Fringe can personalize your jewelry. Such an adorable touch! I will wear this piece all the time and love that it has an "A" for Armstrong. I also chose an arrow because i think it gives it a nice touch with the antique vintage look the locket naturally has. 
Bohemian Fringe is GIVING AWAY 1 Personalized Locket just for YOU!

 (so many adorable options and different textures/lengths to play with). It makes layering necklace SO much easier.


First Look:
Top: H&M jean button up top (similar style below)
Tank: H&M (similar style below)
Necklace c/o Bohemian Fringe Turquoise Stone Pendant
Bracelet: Vintage (similar style below)







Second Look:
Cardigan: Forever 21 Black Sheer Maxi Cardigan (also posted 2 options below)
Tank: Nordstroms Brass Plum Black Tank (link below)
Necklace: c/o Bohemian Fringe Antique Long Locket
Necklace: c/o  Bohemian Fringe Pyrite Tusk Necklace
Skirt: Floral Pleated Maxi Skirt (a few years old..3 options below)


Forever 21 Long Skirts · Victoria's Secret Long Skirts · Free People Long Skirts

Bohemian Fringe has a wide selection of necklaces to choose from! 

Check them out here: Bohemian Fringe


My readers get 15% off by entering Coupon Code: TRFANS


Instructions To Enter The Bohemian Fringe Giveaway (winner will receive 1 personalized locket like the one seen above..you can choose your metal, chain, and what you want inscribed):


  • You must be a follower of this blog (to follow: Click "Join This Site" on the right side of this blog and enter in your email to become a follower)
  • You must leave a comment below stating what your favorite necklace is from the Bohemian Fringe Shop 

[You may also enter on Instagram for an additional chance to win. Instructions will be on IG]


Giveaway ends this Friday Dec. 20th 2013. 

Happy Shopping ladies! 





Thursday, December 12, 2013

4 Months Postpartum, Body Talk: Healthy Eyes To See

4 Months Postpartum, Body Talk: Healthy Eyes To See

*These photos were taken several years ago by the fabulous photographer Whitney Schey *
(I love her creativity & this was a few years after coming out of that place I was in so I thought these were fitting)










Im writing this midway through my 4th month, closer to 5 months postpartum actually, because I wasn't sure exactly what I wanted to write. I knew I wanted to use this time as a platform to speak truth and positivity into you ladies. I knew I wanted to lift you up, lift myself up, and lift women up in general when it comes to the hardships we face about our bodies.  I knew I wanted to post more about my own journey, my story, not just postpartum but in life when it comes to how I have valued, viewed, and nourished my body in both healthy and unhealthy ways. I guess there was just so much I wanted to say that I didn't know where to start. Maybe each month I can choose a different topic instead of overwhelming you with all of my thoughts now on the subject.. we shall see. But one thing I do want to say is I hope you come here to this place, this space & feel lifted up today, not torn down. I pray that you feel empowered and that you are not alone, that we are all in this journey of life together, through the happy times and the more challenging times.  I want my little blog to be a place where you can feel refreshed, connected, and understood and a little lighter when you leave here.

With that said, I've decided to start with sharing more of myself. Going a bit deeper into my own story. All of my childhood I was petite, I was told I was "little, tiny, petite, thin, and always chosen to do gymnastic demonstrations with our instructor (which I hated and it gave me performance anxiety), I could run fast because of being light, I had friends tell me they wished they could be smaller like me, my mom had to sew all of my pants because I couldn't fit into teenager clothes and refused to continue wearing kids clothes in jr high.. Being "small" became something people labeled me with so much at such a young age that it became part of my identity.  I never knew this was happening, it just happened. As a therapist who works with young adults and teen girls, i see it happen with girl after girl after girl. Not just the girls that are "petite", but also to girls that are labeled "chubby, too tall, too boy-ish" you name it.  You tell someone something enough times and it leaves a mark.. they start to allow it to penetrate them.. to become a part of how they see themselves and identify with themselves. "If people are telling me this over and over, well then it must be true, and therefore it must be important for me to accept".  Which results in little kids believing they are fat, ugly, stupid, gay, a giant, etc etc etc. In my case, it made me believe that being thin was part of how people saw me, so if that ever changed then who would i be? would people still like me? would i become unloveable? If they made my appearance such a big deal, then it must be important for me to always be that..

As a child, our brains are not capable of cognitively understanding whats slowly occurring. My weight became something I valued, something I began to identify my worth by. It was more on the surface for me then, but as I got older it slowly went deeper and deeper into the core of who I was.  I remember the first year I started to really become a woman and saw my body change was around Junior year of high school. Up until then I looked like a little boy, no boobs, no hips.. you get the picture.  So this transformation was hard for me to accept. Thats when I started to struggle with loving my body,  finding my worth in my appearance, not in who I really am as a human being.  I would say my first couple years of college were the most difficult, not only had my body completely changed since childhood (in a woman) but I was now supposed to be a responsible adult and discover who I am and who I want to be ...for the rest of my life! Well, so I thought at the time.  Oh little girl, if I could have just had an hour with my old self, the things I would say to help her through those hard times!! I would just hold her, tell her shes loved, not because of her appearance, but because of her soul, her heart, her personality, her God given characteristics and soley because she is HIS CHILD and HIS CREATION.

I later began a journey of healing, a journey of allowing the Lord to show me through His eyes just who He made me to be. God was able to heal my woundeness, the places in my heart that had been damaged from the world and its views it imposed on me as a young child. We all have brokeness, sometimes it takes some exploring, sometimes it takes time to figure out, sometimes we try to deny our hurts and pain and push it deep down (i did this for many years) but when I finally worked on accepting and embracing myself, my body included, I found freedom. I was able to love myself, although imperfect according the worlds standards, I knew I was perfectly loved unconditionally by my Heavently Father, and His opinion of me was all that I needed to focus on.  Its so easy for us to try to be who the world tells us we "should" be, its much more difficult to be who God calls us to be & go against the current.  Loving myself as I am has allowed me to experience joy and peace in ways I could have never  experienced before because i was striving for something that wasn't attainable, to be perfect and the way other's told me I should be.. especially the media.  I feel terrible for the girls growing up in this world today, for those that are in jr high and high school right now, I pray for you, its even harder today than it was when I was there.  I commend you for your efforts to stay true to who you are.  I am honored to sit with these girls and counsel them because at their age, I dont know that I would have been brave enough to really look within or smart enough to know my heart needed some desparate healing.

Lastly, because im reading Bread & Wine by Shauna Niequist, as I previously posted here My People, The Gift of Friendship, & A Vow Renewal , I wanted to end with some of her beautiful words that again, touched my spirit in a kind and gentle way:


 "..I'm learning to practive gratitude for a healthy body, even if it's rounder than i'd like it to be. I'm learning to take up all the space i need, literally and figuratively, even though we live in a world that wants women to be tiny and quiet.  To feed one's body, to admit one's hunger, to loook one's appetite straight in the eye without fear or shame-this is controversail work in our culture.

Part of being a Christian means practicing grace in all sorts of big and small and daily ways, and my body gives me the opportunity to demonstrate grace, to make peace with imperfection every time I see myself in the mirror".  

Her words are so refreshing, so true, and bring me peace.

"demonstrate grace, to make peace with imperfection every time I see myself in the mirror".. We can use these honest words not just for our bodies but in all areas of ourselves that we tend to be critical of.

So my update about being 4 months postpartum is short and sweet because it doesnt really matter does it? I have now lost all of the weight that I gained during pregnancy to house my little guy. I feel strong, I feel different, I feel like I have an even greater sense of respect for my body after having Cash. I am grateful for pregnacny and how its changed me for the better.  I don't look exactly the same and probably never will, but I don't mind in the least and that is the honest truth. I just want to be a healthy role model to my sons and daughters and love myself enough to experience the freedom He offers. I don't know that this would have been my view on this had I not gone through the difficult struggle with my body image in my teens.  I can now appreciate and be grateful for my health and all that my body is capable of.. espceially creating a life.

I'd love to hear from you.. i get several emails from you guys about weight, body struggles, etc and always welcome conversation. I love each of you and if you ever need prayer or someone to talk to you know where to find me! I only hope and pray that we can be a community that lifts one another up, prays for each other, and is supportive and transparent.

I hope you enjoyed reading a little part of my story and what has brought me to be the woman of faith I am today.  If you enjoyed reading please let me know by commenting, sharing, liking, or emailing me. I love to know your thoughts, and I appreciate knowing you guys are taking away something positive from my little world over here.. i want to hear about you & want this blog to be about your lives & your thoughts as well (;

xo

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

My People, The Gift Of Friendship, and A Vow Renewal

My People, The Gift Of Friendship, and A Vow Renewal: 

Meet Kelly, Ashley, and Sarah, i love my people. 

At the start of my last semester of college I really began to crave Christian girl friends. I had my sisters, and I am sooo so very blessed to have them, but I wanted to be SURROUNDED by women of faith, not just my family, but real friendship that goes deeper than love, laughter, fun, and all the goodness that comes with great friends.. i wanted Christ centered relationships in all areas of my life. It was right around this time that I met my husband.  We both wanted to dive in deeper into our faith. He encouraged me to start a womens bible study through a small church that we were attending together at the time.  A seed was planted and so so much good fruit has been beared because of it. 

Through this womens bible study I found myself, I found who God created me to be, I found friendships that will last a lifetime, I found relationships that held me up when I was in despair, people that prayed with me through the most meaningful moments of my life and the most difficult.. i am forever grateful for our womens group. 

Out of this group I met 3 women that I feel God created to be my soul sisters. We are three very different women, but we are three women that balance one another in the most amazing way. I think its so beautiful that when I met these 3 ladies, only one of us was married and only one of us had a baby, now we are all four married and 3 of us have kids.  The beautiful part of it is I get to do life with these women. And God chose them wisely, because doesnt He know exactly what we need?, Yes, yes He does.  He chose women that would not only be an incredible match with me and each other & people who are healthy that lift me up sprititually and only speak truth to me, but He also strategically chose men for these women to marry..men that God knew would become some of my husbands closest deepest friendships. Thank you Lord for our people. 

If you follow me on instagram you saw that I went to a Women's Christan Fellowship dinner and had the pleasure of hearing author Shauna Niequist speak. I started reading her book today and I already love it (Bread & Wine).  Heres an insert that touched my heart this morning:

"It's those five faces around the table that keep me sane, that keep me safe, that protect me from the pressures and arrows and land mines of daily life.  And it isn't because we do all the same things, live all the same ways, believe all the same things. We are single and married, liberal and conservative, runners and adamant nonathletes, mothers and not.  Those of us who are mothers do it differently, form cry-it-out to family bed, from stay-at-home to full-time work"

"We've gone to funerals and birthday parties together, reported bad test results, gotten advice about sick kids, made trips to the ER, walked together through postpartum depression. We've visited eachother's babies in the hospital, and we've brought over meals and sleepers and blankets.  We've talked about faith and fear and fighting with our husbands, sleeping through the nights and anxiety and how to ask for help when we need it.

On the hardest days, when Brannon's daughter Emme had surgery, or when Casey's stepdad passed away, when something breaks apart or scares us, we send around a quick group email, even as our hands are shaking, even while the pain is slicing.  We fill everyone in, ask for prayer, let everyone know how they can help with meals or witht he kids, and at the end of the email, someone always says, Thanks for being my people. Or Glad you're my people. Or, What would i do without my people?"
- Bread & Wine Shauna Niequist

I couldn't have described our story better for these 3 girls and I.  This is the relationship I have with each of them, these are the women I prayed for for years and God blessed me with them and their husbands. 



Here we are celebrating Ashley & Sean's 5 year Vow renewal. You see, they met and fell in love right away. They were engaged sometime after and during their engagement decided "we just cannot wait!". They wanted to be obedient and wait for things that God tells us are sacred and saved for marriage. They were so in love and desperately wanted to be together forever so they ran off to the courthouse and didnt tell a soul.. they saved this for themselves for an entire year.. no one knew they had gotten married. And they were too worried that everyone would be upset for doing it without them that they kept it a secret... this beautiful union wasnt shared with a soul except for with each other.  They were the only two souls that knew, just them and God. I think this is soooo romantic. But she tells it much differently. She has told it with a bit of disappointment in her voice, as though she did something wrong and should have waited or included everyone. But I think she now realizes their love story is perfect. It isnt about everyone else. It was about them. It was about their obedience to our King. It was about romance and starting their family, their love, their union, their committment to each other and God for eternity.  They came out and told everyone a year later, and they were terrified to do so, but every single person in their life was J O Y F U L with the news. Every single loved one was so happy for them and understood.  
Ash and Seany never had the wedding that every girl dreams of.  They never had a chance to share their love story, their testimony in front of witnesses and their loved ones. They didn't get to celebrate with all the peole that have prayed with them, cared for them, and been a part of their union. So, 5 years later an opportunity arrose and they put together a celebration. And it was perfect.  I was in tears to watch these two dedicate their souls to each other again. Who meant their words and commitment even more 5 years later than they did the day they wed. It was so special and so intimate, every guest there could feel their love, every witness was touched by it. They meant every word of their vows, because they've already lived them. 



Isn't she stunning?




Dont mind me.. Im mid sentence.. but i SO love this picture because its REAL. It captures us exactly how we are. These are my prayer warriors, these are my people.  


I was honored to make this bouque for my beautiful best friend. Its so much more special to gift someone with something you've put your heart and soul into. 

Can they be any more wonderful together..?!

And then the celebration.... (some fun shots that I had a good laugh at!)






















 My people. xo

Monday, December 9, 2013

Mighty Heart, Do Not Be Trampled With Fear

Mighty Heart, Do Not Be Trampled With Fear




This time of year can be so c-uuu-r-a-zaay and so anxiety provoking with all the stuff we need to get done, all the places we think we should or need to go, the holiday events we are invited and obligated to attend, and the money we are told we need to spend. Not to mention we are supposed to carry on with normal life, working, being a parent, a wife, maintaining our fellowship with others, and most importantly our walk with God, paying our bills, putting food and meals on the table, having enough down time to make sure we are practicing self-care, time for giving and serving, time for simply doing the day to day stuff like taking a shower, cleaning th dishes, and doing the laundry.  My oh my it can get overwhelming pretty quickly.

One of the many reasons I enjoy blogging is for days like this when I need a reality check... A moment of reflection. I start writing when I feel stress coming on, or a heavy load that begins to burden me. And in the process of writing I often figure out exactly what i need to do, or in other words, get rid off or clean out! Sometimes the cleaning out part is my HEAD. Ha! Some of you may know I'm a counselor, and I often advocate journaling to my clients. In othe words, writing out your thoughts... It helps us process in a whole new way..it helps us see whats going on up in our brain in a clear picture on paper.. It's therapy with just you, yourself.. Alone, being still.

 I like to practice what I preach and I also believe in being transparent. I am a bit overwhelmed lately.. I'd say the past two weeks have left a trail of anxiety and stress building in my bones and im here today to clear it out. I want to trust my heavenly father in all areas of my life, even the ones I feel burdened and weighed down by. I need to practice child-like faith and believe he is taking care of me always. He walks before me, so why does my heart still fear? Why does my head still worry? Why does my body feel tense with stress?i must be losing sight of Him. As hard as that is to say out loud, publicly.. I must not trust Him e n o u g h, "oh ye of little faith". Don't we all do this? Don't we all have those areas in our lives that we want to subconsciously hoard to ourselves and not hand them over with trusting hearts to our Lord?  You know, some say that being religious is easy,that its a crutch for the weak. I think being in a relationship with God and trusting Him, having blind Faith is the most difficult decisions to make in life...it's difficult because by nature we are sinful, and we are taught By this fallen world to be self sufficient. So entrusting our lives to a God we cannot see or a God that is not tangible, a God that is ridiculed and put down by many, ..well, that takes courage and bravery.  

Faith is for the brave at heart.. The ones that know they are in desparate need of a Savior and can confess with their hearts that His love saves them. 




* The Winner Of The Personalized Christmas Card Giveaway is Christina Brown from Instagram. I'll be contacting you personally and putting you in contact with TheMeekBoutique to pick your cards! Congratulations! And thank you to all of you that participated! I love doing giveaways for you and I really enjoyed learning all about your favorite Christmas traditions!
xo

Saturday, December 7, 2013

Our Family Christmas Card & a GIVEAWAY for Yours!


Our Family Christmas Card & a GIVEAWAY for Yours! 



Front of our Christmas card 

Back side of our Christmas Card
We are so thrilled to share our family Christmas card with you designed by the fabulous TheMEEkBoutique and taken by the lovely KelseySteindler (who happens to be my beautiful sister).

 We are even more excited to share that TheMeekBoutique has collaborated with us to GIVEAWAY a free personalized Christmas card just for you and your family! Her shop has a ton of options for cards to choose from. To enter follow the instructions at the bottom of this post. 

The Meek Boutique is owned by a lovely kind hearted lady named Terri.  She is a wife and also the mother of three fabulous boys and gets to homeschool them! She loves creating art and this is her way of sharing it with you and your families! She does beautiful Christmas cards that you can choose and pick out quick and easy.  But what i think is extra special is she even does custom designs for those of you who want your very own one of a kind card.  She also does annoucements for engagements and babies, party invites, art for your home or nursery, and all sorts of fun stuff! You should really get a look at everything she has to offer.

Check out her shop here: TheMeekBoutique

To enter the Christmas Card GIVEAWAY:
You must be a follower of this blog (you can follow by clicking "Join this site" on the right side of my blog).
You must leave a comment below telling me one thing you enjoy about Christmas.

If you'd like to submit yourself on instagram you can do so for an additional submition and have 1 extra shot at winning this raffle (you can follow me on instagram on the right hand side of this blog). I will draw the names tomorrow evening (Sunday, December 8th) so get your submissions in now! 

Merry Christmas Everyone! Til the season to GIVE!

A couple of her cards I love:




Ill be posting the rest of the photos we took in a different post in a week or so. Stay tuned! xo